Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label happiness. Show all posts

Friday, March 21, 2014

What's wrong with the world and us?


Well according to director Tom Shadyac, I AM. or at least that's the the premise in his  documentary of the same name. He has another one out called “Happy”. You could say that ones about the search for, well happiness.
First off, who is Tom Shadyac? Well have you ever heard of Ace Ventura, The Nutty Professor, Liar Liar? Well he directed those movies among others. I'm not going to go into his story here, and why he's making serious documentaries about life and the pursuit of happiness. You'll just have to see for yourself.  I just wanted to bring a little discussion to the issue.
Tom puts forth the hypothesis that accumulating wealth beyond one's basic needs is a mental illness. That may seem pretty drastic, and yet the fact is that once we've reached a comfortable level of income that meets our basic needs, anything over that does not make us any happier. It's kind of like that with drinking if you’ll forgive the analogy. Where one drink may feel good, having another, and another does not increase ones feeling of “good”!
I believe we have a dissociative disorder, but before I get into that we can easily come up with a few simple explanations for our obsession with wealth and power.  It feels good, though that feeling is temporary, and again like that analogy of a drug leaves us wanting more, and another fix.  Wealth and power in themselves can be self intoxicating, and can lead to almost an  obsessive tendency.  One develops a need to have more, as if life would be empty without it.  This extends beyond the mental to the physical level, and I can only liken it to an adrenaline junky.  It’s a game, and it’s fun.  That one is self explanatory.  It provides a purpose.  If that’s all I know, and I’m good at it, well then as with many people and careers, it can provide an identity.  
So let’s look at this picture from a different perspective.  My experience through my own chronic health issues and work as a Counselor has shown me that most or all of us are uncomfortable with not only negative feelings but positive ones too if they are too strong.  We also seem to be uncomfortable or disconnected with our bodies, and look at them as foreign entities, that we inhabit and fear may fail us at anytime.  We either avoid our health symptoms or run to the doctor in hopes of a pill to make them all go away.  How can we feel safe, connected and supported if we even feel disconnected from ourselves?
We have over the past hundreds of years become disconnected from nature and the earth.  Rather than feeling ourselves a part of this planet and the other natural inhabitants, many of us feel disconnected and threatened by it.  How have we gone from feeling supported and safe by our natural surroundings to feeling like we need to control them?  
We have become disconnected with others.  I sit on my computer typing this blog rather than being surrounded by family because I can.  Travel has allowed us to move away from our birthplace, and technology has allowed us to “communicate” without being all messy and stuff, by actually having to be with someone.  How can I feel connected while being “alone”?
So...now what?  First off, I would suggest watching Tom’s documentaries, “I Am”, and “Happy”. They’re well done, and insightful.  I also have a few simple suggestions.  Spend time making time for friends and family, even if it’s through facebook.  Spend a little time each and every day connecting with nature...get a CD with nature sounds...bye a bird feeder...plant a small garden of herbs or vegetables...go for a walk without headphones on, so you hear the sounds of the earth.  Spend time each and every day in quiet contemplation/meditation/mindfulness.  Finally if you like Tom’s films there are a host of others you can find at your library, on Netflix, through GIAIM, Oprah’s OWN Network, etc.

Enjoy, and enjoy the journey back home.

A link to the documentary, I Am

Friday, November 29, 2013

A Single Word Can Affect Your Reality!




I have experienced chronic health issues in the past.  Actually for years in my twenties I was extremely ill.  During this time I became very sensitive/allergic to things most of us aren’t, or don’t realize we are.  I had your “normal” pollen allergies, but I also became sensitive to molds, and chemicals, and foods that until that time I never had a problem with.

Now what’s amazing is how this and other experiences we have can change and affect us.  And affect me it did.  I fought and worked like I never had before with such passion to get well, but I also was thrown into a world of survival, literally.  I reacted to everyday things with such intensity that they made me incredibly ill.  My body was in such a state that it simply couldn’t process/detox things we take for granted.  Everything became a threat.

Today I took a supplement that I have taken in the past, and felt for a brief time, extreme tingling sensations, a flushing throughout my body and into my extremities, a speeding up of my breathing.  All of these were automatic responses to what I had taken.  *  They did not last long because I simply allowed myself to feel them, without distress.  I allowed myself to relax and breathe, and noted how my body RESPONDED to the substance.  

After some time I noticed how the word RESPONSE better fit the experience I was having at this time, but also helped me to accept the experience, in contrast to the word REACT, if I had chosen to use that.

How can you see situations in your life differently by using words with different meanings, and what meanings do you ascribe to your words?

Best Regards.

* Note:  These can be responses to other problems that may be serious.  This is not meant to be a medical article offering advice.  If you experience health issues/symptoms, please advise your health professional.

Also note some responses for some or to some things can be life threatening.  In the past mine were, as can be peanuts or any other substance to someone else.